Tag: Expectations

Chai = Love

Chai (tea) was a staple growing up in our Indian household.  We had chai when a neighbor stopped by to say hi.  When I needed a break from studying or work, the answer was chai.  Experiencing a three o’clock energy dip? …must be time for chai.  After dinner… you got it – chai-time.  I don’t […]

The Two Step Decision Making Tool

Do You Have Decision-Fatigue? You know, when you waffle over making decisions that should be simpler than they feel. You make dozens of decisions every day ranging from simple ones (what to wear in the morning or what to eat) to more complex ones (whether you’ve outgrown a relationship or a job description). Sure, there […]

The Key to Feeling Heard—Every Time!

Who’s the best listener in your life? You know, that person who just gets you. Don’t you wish you could clone him or her? Yet other times, you might feel like a broken record, repeating the same message over and over—to people who seem tuned out. And no matter how important your topic or how […]

Are You On Empty or Self-Full?

How many times have you tuned out the safety instructions blaring over the loudspeaker on an airplane? I bet you could recite them verbatim. The flight attendant calls for everyone’s attention. You know the drill … let’s fast forward to this part: “In the unlikely event that the cabin pressure should drop, oxygen masks will […]

Is LOVE Taking You For a Ride?

With V-Day upon us, it’s the perfect time to take inventory of the many kinds of love in our lives. Whether you’re a parent or a partner, a sibling or a soul sister—whatever the relationship, there’s always a give and take. While sometimes unspoken, each person brings their own hopes and dreams to the relationship […]

Do You Say Yes When You Really Mean No?

Janet, a 44-year-old executive at a consulting firm, came to me complaining of headaches, insomnia, and a constant nagging in her stomach.  She said her gut felt like it was tied in knots. At work Janet was a high performer and was rewarded with a promotion for always saying yes. She found herself awake at […]

Digging Deeper for Love

“All the buried seeds crack open in the dark, the instant they surrender to a process they can’t see.”  Mark Nepo As far as I’m concerned, surrender is a swear word.  I’ve spent a large part of my life in resistance and have only recently come to realize it’s because I’m addicted to the-need-to-know.  I […]

Show Your True Colors

March and April show us the first signs of spring.  The daffodils begin to peek out from the soil.  Buds magically appear on the trees.  And the world begins to notice new signs of life.  Perhaps now is a good time to take a cue from nature and get curious about new ways you want […]

What’s the Key to Your Heart?

In the previous blog, I began discussing about the importance of knowing ourselves first and asking for what we need before we can build a meaningful, lasting relationship with others.  I am now writing in order to build upon that theme and how well-intentioned people can love one another and also miss the boat on […]

Be Your Own Valentine

With Valentine’s Day upon us, I’m reminded that although it only takes the click of a mouse to ‘friend’ another via social media, friending yourself is a much more difficult task. It means getting clear about what you want and having the courage to express those wants to others.  This is not something we have […]